Attachment Styles
The 4 S’s Every Child Needs: Are You Missing Them in Your Life?
Did You Miss Out on the Four S’s in Childhood? Here’s Why Therapy Might Help
Have you watched our video on the Four S’s—Safe, Seen, Soothed, and Secure—by Dr. Dan Siegel? If you have, you might be reflecting on your own childhood and wondering, “Did I receive these essential elements growing up?”
For many of us, the answer might be complicated. Perhaps you didn’t always feel safe, maybe your emotions weren’t acknowledged, or you had to learn to soothe yourself because no one was there to help. If any of this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Many adults carry the weight of unmet needs from childhood into their adult lives, affecting relationships, self-esteem, and overall emotional well-being.
But here’s the good news: it’s never too late to heal.
Therapy can be a powerful tool to address the gaps left by not experiencing the Four S’s in your childhood. Here’s how it can help:
- Rebuilding Emotional Safety: Therapy creates a space where you can explore your feelings without judgment, helping you develop a sense of safety you may not have had growing up.
- Feeling Seen: A therapist can help you feel understood and validated, offering the experience of being truly “seen” for who you are.
- Learning to Soothe: Therapy can teach you healthy coping mechanisms and ways to soothe yourself, helping you manage stress and emotions more effectively.
- Developing Security: Over time, therapy can help you build secure relationships and trust in yourself, giving you the foundation you need to thrive.
If you find yourself struggling with trust, anxiety, or unresolved emotions, it might be worth considering therapy as a step towards healing. You deserve to experience the Four S’s—no matter what your past looks like.
Ready to take the first step? If you are ready to heal your inner child please contact Donna at admin@theheartofthematter.com.au.
